Humans are all about communication, but the art of speaking is an alien language to most of us.
Only few people have the ability to speak things with utter diligence.Some people, on the other hand, are unable to communicate and are prone to insulting others due to their poor delivery. As a result, many refrain from speaking their thoughts or engaging in arguments that can result in serious damage.
As Albus Dumbledore (J. K. Rowling) has beautifully said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.”
So, here are the ways to Ace the conversation part:
– Request, Don’t Force: When you’re not obliged to talk to someone, the best discussions happen. My advice is the same in this case: Start with an invitation and talk about something enjoyable or light before jumping on to the serious stuff.
– Take your time: No need to hurry and complete the conversation because you can. Take your time and relax and try to take the conversation slowly.
– Listen: The most serious issue in today’s world is that people listen to speak rather than just listening attentively. So, if someone is talking about something significant, please listen before responding. Reiterating their point of view makes the other person feel more listened to and valued.
– Do not Judge: It’s acceptable to be curious and ask questions to clarify your uncertainties, but don’t pass judgement or be prejudiced against others, especially teens, who, despite their age, have their own problems.
– Don’t start with the bad news right away: Start with something pleasant and work your way up to the Matter at hand. When it comes to terrible news, be careful and gentle.
– Being there is enough: When you have unpleasant news to deliver, don’t be immature about it; simply be a calm friend to the person in sorrow. Stay present and respect what they’re feeling if they cry, rage, or fall helplessly silent.
– The importance of silence cannot be overstated: Allow the person time and space to reflect. Don’t make them speak if they don’t want to.
– If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it: We can take over and disempower individuals, but if the remedy was simple, they would have solved their problem by now. Just be there and support them irrevocably.
– Finish on a good note by expressing gratitude and respect for their honesty and time. Your quarrel does not have to lead to a breakup of your relationship.
– Take care of yourself: If a conversation leaves you feeling disturbed, remember to be gentle to yourself. Keep in mind, even if you adore something, you must let it go. Simply recall the pleasant memories you have of them.
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.”